Dealing with a child custody case comes with many hurdles. A divorce or separation alone is enough to overwhelm you, but when there’s a child or children involved, things get a bit more complicated. As a parent, you want to ensure that you do everything possible to show that you deserve the type of custody that you’re asking for.
However, doing so might not be the easiest task. Sometimes, emotions get involved and can lead to us saying or doing things that aren’t the best decisions for winning the case. Because of this, it’s important to have a good idea of some of the major do’s and don’ts for winning a child custody case.
Are you ready to give it your all? If so, then continue reading below. Here are some of the most important do’s and don’ts to know about when battling for child custody!
First, we’re going to start with the don’ts. There are a few things that you’ll want to avoid when dealing with a child custody case. Even if you’re the more fit parent and know that your child or children will benefit most from being with you, it’s still important to keep these don’ts in mind.
Don’t Create Stories
For starters, don’t create stories. Even if the other parent has done something similar in the past, you can’t create a story to tell to try and win a case. Aside from completely creating your own story, you also shouldn’t exaggerate a true story either.
You want to remain 100% honest throughout the entire process. Trying to paint your ex with colors of negativity isn’t going to help you win the case. In all honesty, lying in court with even the most simple lie could result in you losing.
Don’t Refuse a Court Order
If the court is asking you to do something, be sure to follow suit. You don’t want to refuse any orders given to you by the court. Show that you’re committed by doing everything that the court asks of you.
For example, the court might ask you to attend parenting classes, which is common during a divorce case that involves children. If this is true, be sure to accept it without hesitation. This is the best way to show that you’re willing to do anything to keep custody of your children.
Don’t Engage in Negative Communication
At the very least, refrain from all negative situations and communication with your ex. This means staying off social media as well. Don’t become frustrated with the child custody process and turn to social media to rant.
This is information that can later be used against you in the case. You also don’t want to send any negative texts, voicemails, letters, or phone calls to your ex. Keep everything as cordial as possible.
If this is something you don’t believe you can do at the moment, then refrain from all direct communication in general. Try to find a middle man to work things out between you if you don’t believe you can have civil communication between the two of you.
Now that you know some of the major don’ts, it’s time to learn about some of the most important do’s. Just as engaging in a don’t could cost you your case, engaging in a do could win you your case.
Do Try to Work with Your Ex
At the very least, you do want to try to work with your ex as much as possible. Not every divorce needs to end with fighting. If you can come to an agreement on things, then you’re already one step ahead of the game.
We understand that this isn’t always the easiest thing to achieve, but if you can work with him or her, please do so. This makes everything a lot easier.
Do Know Your Parental Rights
Before heading into a custody battle, ensure that you do your research and know your parental rights ahead of time and throughout the entire process. If you’re given visitation rights, then exercise them. This shows that you’re in it 100%.
Do Show You’re a Competent Parent
Your ex can come in saying whatever he or she wants to about you. However, all that matters is what the courts believe and what you show them. Get vocal training if needed, and be sure to not only tell the court that you’re a competent parent but show it.
Do Play a Role in Your Child’s Education
Even if your child is no longer living with you, it’s important that you still play an active role in his or her life and in his or her education. Be sure to attend all parent and teacher conferences and stay in contact with the teacher each week.
You should also make it a point to attend all of your child’s extracurricular activities. These are all things that show you play an active role in the child’s life.
Do Work with an Experienced Lawyer
When everything is said and done, do work with an experienced lawyer. A lawyer who has experience working in family law and with child custody cases is going to know everything needed to win your case. This lawyer will also be able to help you understand these and more do’s and don’ts that might come up along the way.
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If you’re battling with a child custody case, then it’s time to get help today. You need a lawyer on your side who has experience handling child custody cases.
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